I assume (!) it was great, and you are either desperately waiting for the third agreement or you have already bought the book (congratulations in that case).
Here we go:
The third agreement is: “Don’t make assumptions.”
“We make assumptions about what others are doing or thinking – we take it personally – then we blame them and react by sending emotional poison with our word.”
And “we are afraid to ask for clarification. (…) It is always better to ask questions than to make an assumption, because assumptions set us up for suffering.”
When I read this, I was immediately reminded of an encounter a few years back. I felt annoyed first, then emberrassed, and today I find it amusing:
I attended a Christian mass in Bangkok. There was only one altar boy. A young man, wearing a very fashionable outfit and hair style. He was obviously very sleepy, kept yawning all the time and then – fell indeed asleep during mass. Outrageous! I may not be a very religious person, but this was for me one of the most disrespectful acts possible in the house of God. And you know what? I just couldn’t get my eyes off that young man! I kept watching him throughout the ceremony.
At the end of the mass, the priest explained to everybody how grateful he was for the altar boy: no other server was available, and this young man volunteered to celebrate mass – even though he had worked throughout the night. After he had finished his nightshift, he went directly to the mass…!
Oh dear. Imagine how embarrassed I was. This taught me a lesson to be very careful with my judgment based on mere assumptions without any evidence.
However, this is just a funny story. But how often do you make assumptions about what others think of you, without asking them. Are you a mindreader?
How often do you limit yourself by simply imagining the wildest things that could happen?
Why are you reluctant to ask the questions that will give you the answers that you need?
Anyway, you can guess already what your homework is: Stand in front of the mirror…
“I AM IMPECCABLE WITH MY WORD,
I DO NOT TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY.
I DO NOT MAKE ASSUMPTIONS.”
Seven days, and we’ll see how it goes. May the force be with you.
The Four Agreements is written by Don Miguel Ruiz