Have you been impeccable with your word? Yes? Fantastic. But it was so hard? Sure it was.
Here’s the second agreement for you, warrior: “Don’t take anything personally.”
Well, haven’t we heard that before? Isn’t it easily said, but so difficult to do? I can tell you, I can be quite emotional and short-tempered at times – oh, let me correct: I was emotional and short-tempered!
Once you truly get the point that “NOTHING other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves” you will understand that this is the key to equanimity. You only take something personally “when you agree with whatever was said.” So just don’t. Really don’t.
“Whatever other people think or feel, it is their problem, not your problem. If someone get’s mad at you they are dealing with themselves. You are just the excuse for them to get mad. They get mad because they are dealing with fear.”
Do you see how powerful this is? Remember this the next time you have trouble with your boss, with your spouse, or with the waiter in the restaurant.
I invite you to give another one week exercise a try: from now onwards, for the next seven days,
when you get up in the morning, stand in front of the mirror and say it out loud:
“I AM IMPECCABLE WITH MY WORD,
I DO NOT TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY.”
Whenever you get weak in your actions, and before you go to bed, repeat the exercise. Practice makes perfect. (But don’t aim for perfectionism, please 😉 )
See what happens until next week. I am curious already. Enjoy life.
The Four Agreements is written by Don Miguel Ruiz