Can people force you to drink alcohol if you don’t want to? Don’t say yes if you want to say no.

Do you feel you have to drink alcohol because of the expectations of other people? Drink when you don’t want to drink just because your job “requires” it or in order to get a feeling of belonging?

Stop wearing your social mask. Don’t compromise your health, and don’t say yes when you feel you should say no. Learn to say no with confidence!

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Finally a Scientific Answer to the Question Whether Money Can Buy Happiness?

Earlier this month psychologist and Nobel laureate Daniel Kahnemann and Angus Deaton of renowned Princeton University published a study in which they related the “well-being” of American people to their income. In a country that constitutes the “pursuit of happiness” in their declaration of independence, the press had a field day with this article of course.

Time titled “Do We Need $75,000 a Year to Be Happy?” and Reuters “Can money buy happiness? Maybe, up to $75,000” were among the moderate ones.

The Bloomberg Businessweek came up with a more daring headline: “After $75,000, Money Can’t Buy Day-to-Day Happiness

And a blog which I will not name here takes the cake with “Money Can Buy Happiness, Study Finds — But Only Up To $75,000”

Wow, have we found the ultimate answer to one of the essential questions in life now? Do we know now that money will make us happy, at least to a certain extent? And can we indeed identify that what we all should aim for is the optimum income of 75,000 US$ a year?

The answer is: not quite…

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Scarcity – What do you need to do to have zero regrets on your death bed?

It is Sunday noon. The last day of my stay in Germany. Strange feelings. Although I have chosen that my new home is in Thailand, it is hard to leave my parents and the country in which I was born and in which everything is so familiar and easy.

I have stayed for more than two weeks, but as it is the last day, it is a special day. How can I make best use of it? How can I make this special day special? And: have I made optimum use of the other 14 days?

To make more use of commuting time, I sometimes listen to audio books. During my stay in Germany, whenever I drove the car, I listened to Anthony Robbins “Live with Passion”. And suddenly I feel reminded of his concept of scarcity.

In short, it’s about the fact that we humans usually value things more once we realize they are scarce. Anthony gives a simple example of him and his family being keen on a new sort of cookies. He realized their craving for cookies increased as soon as they ran out of stock. Once they raised the inventory to 25 boxes of cookies, suddenly the cookies were not so special anymore, and they consumed less.

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The Four Agreements – Part 4: “Always Do Your Best.”

Great, you are still there. How is it going? Don’t worry if there are setbacks, that’s normal.

Today, you will start to complete your journey to personal freedom.

“The fourth agreement is about the action of the first three: ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST”

When I read this for the first time, I was concerned that Ruiz wanted us readers to push ourselves constantly to our limits. Like a super athlete aiming for the gold medal at the next Olympics. But this is actually not the case.

I understand it basically as an appeal to a consistent application of the first three agreements. “As you build the habit of the four agreements, your best will become better than it used to be.”

Ruiz lays emphasize on the fact that our best varies: “Everything is alive and changing all the time, so your best will sometimes be high quality, and other times it will be not as good.”

I see today lots of people at work and in their free time acting like crazy to achieve certain goals which were actually set by other people. Ruiz encourages us not to do that, and I love the example he gives about the meditation in the Buddhist temple: “You are not here to sacrifice your joy or your life. You are here to live, to be happy, and to love.”

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The Four Agreements – A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (part 3)

How was your second week of walking the Toltec way?

I assume (!) it was great, and you are either desperately waiting for the third agreement or you have already bought the book (congratulations in that case).

Here we go:

The third agreement is: “Don’t make assumptions.”

“We make assumptions about what others are doing or thinking – we take it personally – then we blame them and react by sending emotional poison with our word.”

And “we are afraid to ask for clarification. (…) It is always better to ask questions than to make an assumption, because assumptions set us up for suffering.”

When I read this, I was immediately reminded of an encounter a few years back. I felt annoyed first, then emberrassed, and today I find it amusing:

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