Are there some people in your life you wish you had never met? Maybe encounters a decade ago which still make your heart race and your muscles tighten when you remember them today? Teachers, false friends, spouses, colleagues, bosses, just to name a few?
In my life there were quite a few, I can tell you. There were teachers whose injustice was so upsetting. Colleagues who spread gossip like poison and thus ruined the working environment. Bosses who never respected the feelings of staffs and treated them like slaves.
However, when I am honest, in retrospective it was good to meet these people. In fact it was great! Reflecting on it from the distance makes me realize that all these people, all these encounters which I suffered from in the past, they actually have contributed to WHO I am and WHERE I AM today. And in fact, life has never been better.
I’ll give one example: once I met someone in my life. Only very late it turned out she was a false friend. I characterized her as greedy and dishonest. Her only value in life seemed to be money, and caused me some days like hell on earth. I was upset, disappointed, and I felt abused and betrayed. I was in severe pain. As in Nelly Furtado’s Maneater I definitely wished I’d never ever met her at all.
But again, looking at this objectively from today’s perspective, there were some positive side-effects from this episode which I would not want to have missed, and which contributed to where I am and to who I am today.
As a consequence of meeting her, for instance I have met new friends who turned out very helpful in my life. I have been to places I might not have otherwise explored. I have done things that I never did before, and which I still today enjoy to remember.
No, looking at it from the distance it was not bad at all! Today, I am grateful.
In my journey, I have managed to reframe my perspective, and I am grateful for all these people who have caused me suffering and pain in my life, because they have been my real life teachers. I also have to admit, that whenever I felt hurt, disappointed, or abused in my adult life, that was only because I gave my silent consent to it! It takes two to tango.
Today, I dedicate this day to the people I once wished I had never met, and I thank you all because you have basically given me the opportunity to learn valuable lessons which made me
• trust my gut feeling
• find happiness inside myself
• explore my values and beliefs and live accordingly
• give me a new direction in life
All people I have met have shaped me in a way to become the person I am today, and in retrospective, it was all good.
So, who are the people in your life you may have caused you pain in th past, but who you should be grateful to today?
– Oh, by the way, in my life I have also hurt people, got in their ways, maybe made them feel abused, or just annoyed them. I wish to apologize for that and maybe one day you will forgive me.
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